Friendship

/ moragnoffke

I am sure you make friends. I hope you do. Making friends has been a way of life from the beginning of time, nothing unusual about that. We needs friends. Some of us find it easy to make friends and others of us take our time or find it difficult. My moving to Scotland has opened up another opportunity for me to make yet more friends and so this is why I ponder the question of friendship. I enjoy connecting with others.

I am not going to get into attachment theory and the whys and wherefores but it is interesting to ponder what type of patterns we have developed in the building of friendships. Questions like: Are we slow to warm up? Or do we lurch at every opportunity? Do we find it hard to trust or reach out? Or have we preferred to stay apart by choice? Some of us have many friends and others of us have just a few. It’s most likely got to do with our ‘friendship-energy’ capacity or more simply put how much time and emotional energy we have for making friends?  Our way of making friends is completely individual and unique.

Here is my poem about a relationship growing in trust and generosity.

Making Friends.

Like a bird I landed in your hand
The other day
It’s absurd because then
I wanted to fly away
And so it went
Land and fly, land and fly, land and fly
Again and again and again.
But that’s the nature of making friends,
first we meet and when I am apart
I hunger for more
Then I meet you again
And I give a little more
And I receive from you.
Then I depart and find 
I have more to give. 

And so the landing and flying 
Goes on and on
And I find I trust you 
More and more
But like the bird 
I have my own place to live
Within myself. 

When I migrate 
You will miss me
When I am not there
As I miss you too
But oh what joy 
There will be
When we meet again 
The next cycle.

If, at first meeting 
You had offered your hand,
Full of seeds
And when I come you shewed me away:
Once would be fine, maybe twice
but thrice? I would think
'This is no way to play!'
And I would not have returned,
like the bird.

We have built our friendship on trust
And fortunately you are not the hand that feeds
And I am not the bird
But we are both on the mutual journey of friendship.

I finish with two YouTube videos of Simon Sinek. He is not only a leadership expert, he is also the founder of the Optimism Company. He also talks about friendship. Here is an interview where he talks about friendship: ‘This Is Why You Can’t Make Friends!’ If you don’t have time just listen I recommend listening to the first 2 minutes, although I think the whole interview is worth watching. Here is another video Called Be there for your friends. Don’t cry alone. I want to encourage you to reach out.

I am grateful to all the friendships I have, longstanding ones from my youth all the way to the new ones I have made in the last few years. It is not by accident that we are friends; and I include my online friends too. What a blessing to have friends and what a privilege to be your friend. I feel grateful and blessed.

Take care,

23 thoughts on “Friendship”

  2. Morag, I am so happy that we are good friends. We have a lot of things in common and somethings not. But not having everything in common gives us more opportunities to learn from each other. I love how funny we can get while talking over the internet and we each learn more about each other and ourselves. Thankful for your friendship, Morag

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  4. Great to read you here! It seems a while since we were in touch. You make me think about the number of different houses I have lived in and the number of different neighbours that we’ve had. none of those neighbours have been “friends” who we’ve continued to stay in touch with but during our time in each house we were close! As we are now, in probably our last home! An interesting and thought provoking post Morag! 🤗😊

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    • Thank you, Ashley, nice to have you here, and nice to hear what you thought about while reading my post. It’s such a lovely picture, all the places you have lived in with all your neighbourhood friends: your friendships are like jewels that are scattered in the world wherever you go. The goodness from within is shared with one another. 🤗😊

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  9. A beautiful poem on friendship!
    When we meet again
    The next cycle.
    This reminds me of my recent visit to hometown, where I met some of my school friends after a gap of 50 years. I’ll write about them. Both videos are quite relevant here.

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    • Thank you for your kind words. Yes the next cycle. I remember you visiting your friends. It’s astonishing how connections still live on even if or when we change outwardly.
      I was second guessing myself with the videos. I was thinking of taking them off but I just left them up. So many people don’t watch them 🤣

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