Unborn Siblings

/ moragnoffke

To my dear Unborn Siblings, I am writing to you as it was suggested that sibling connection is very dear and special. I would value it if you were here but as you already know I am an only child so that is out of the question. I am the only child born to our mother, but how many of you Unborn Siblings are there out there, I wonder?

I cherish my life here on earth immensely, I think you would have too. Our parents were very nice people so I am not sure why you chose not to come but that’s your choice. Maybe there was something that you saw about being here which I didn’t see. I am also not totally sure why I elected to come, but here I am. I trust my existence here and have a mission in life.

I was thinking about you this evening specifically; it would be nice to converse with you face to face and share special times together but I  find myself writing to you instead. You not being here really made me think how much I value my wonderful husband, Derek. You know he’s very busy renovating our 1930’s house. I think he is enthusiastic, brave and strong. I feel like one of those female birds that sits and waits on the sideline for her male to build her a nest. Only I am not going to break it down in disapproval. I know I will approve.

I also appreciate my two daughters. Do you know that they teach me new things now. S is teaching me how to use excel spreadsheets and Ellie taught me a new way of darning to strengthen my cardigan. I was very pleased with the results even although my efforts didn’t look quite as neat as hers.

I am not sure if you know what it’s like to breathe. It’s the first thing you get to do when you are born and it’s the last thing you do before you give up and let go of life here on earth. And of course you fill in all the gaps, in between, with breaths too. Sometimes I forget to breathe when I am concentrating, I tell myself “breathe, Morag, breathe.” I also tell myself that when I am stressed. “Take long, slow breaths. Breathe. It’s good for your brain and for optimal health.” It’s actually nice to breathe. It helps me calm down. Anyway I will tell you more about breathing another time.

So I think that’s enough for now. I don’t want to draw this out too much. I will write again if you like.

Take care, sending smiles to you, wherever you are.

35 thoughts on “Unborn Siblings”

  2. Dear Morag, whilst it must make you a little sad not having siblings, this wonderful post shows a heart warming way to make connections. I am blessed to have siblings & meet them regularly. However, after my early teens I only ever had limited contact with some of my extended family & I would dearly love to have been closer to them & of course they are all now passed. What you write here is one way of connecting with them; also my ancestors, who of course, I could never have known. I have been researching my family tree (s) & that also adds colour & background. From your name & tartan I guess your roots are on the borders of England & Scotland. That would be a wonderful story to add to your place in this life. 🙏

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    • Thank you for your heartfelt comment and for sharing about your experience too. I know that sibling connection can be quite complex with all sorts of things overshadowing the relationships. Researching of family trees is really rewarding and it’s wonderful to find out little snippets about ones family line. I hope to share some of those details in this next while and as a matter of fact my next Unborn Siblings letter is going to touch on that my family crest. How cool is that… You must have been reading my mind😂💜🙏

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  4. Wow, that’s beautifully written Morag. I love how you compare yourself to a female bird sitting and waiting for her male to finish building the nest – that’s so lovely! I only have one brother, but because they live in the UK, we don’t see each other regularly. I miss him … and sometimes wish I had a sister to share my life with too. But that’s how our life is and you make peace with it – and also appreciate what you do have 💌.

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    • Thank you 🤗yes exactly I think we are so fortunate to have others too… And as you say we make peace with it, for the wished for reality and the current reality. You must miss your brother a lot. I am thrilled that you love the image of the female bird 🐦🦢🦩🦚

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  5. It’s a beautiful letter that shows how you can compensate your minuses with pluses you have, and how you can celebrate in the absence of siblings. Today I have written a post on Amrita Pritam, who was also a single child, that too after many prayers. But she lost her mother at 11, and led a lonely life that made her a great poetess and novelist.

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    • Wow! I am going to enjoy reading it this evening. Thank you for telling me about it. And thank you too for inspiring this Unborn Siblings letter series… It’s because of your post yesterday. I am sure you must have guessed 💜🙏

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      • You are welcome, Morag! Yes, I did guess, but enjoyed your thoughtful post very much. It’s a blend of your imagination and beautiful thoughts. Thank you 🙏💐🌺

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  7. Such a beautiful post! I have two sisters I’m very close with. Our bond got even stronger the past couple of years, when both of our parents became ill and passed away. During that very difficult time, I was so grateful and felt so blessed to have my sisters by my side. Your letter is so touching!

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