What details of your life could you pay more attention to?

This is an interesting question because the details I do not overlook are the ones that don’t need more attention because I don’t overlook them but the details I overlook, that need my attention, are precisely overlooked because I have not seen them. As I have not seen them I don’t know what they are and so cannot attend to them.

This is true for most of us. We do not always willfully overlook certain issues. They are overlooked because we can’t see them or don’t know about them. When I do see a detail that needs more attention I can choose to willfully ignore it or turn my attention there and so it shifts into my focus of attention.

As I refer to Johari window, I am thinking mainly of the blind spot. It was Joseph and Harry, two American psychologists, who came up with the concept in 1955, thus it became known as Jo – Hari or Johari window.

The Johari window has four quadrants

1. The known self and known to others = open arena
2. the unknown to self but known to others = the blind spot
3. the known self that is unknown to others = hidden facade
4. the unknown to self and others = unknown

Sometimes life gets in the way of all the details we wish to attend to and I think it’s perfectly fine to let go of some of the less important ones to focus on the more important. That is a choice. I think I have learnt to treat myself with compassion whereas when I was younger I would have got pretty uptight about paying more attention to the details of my life which I wasn’t getting right. I was always afraid of what others would think of me; now I tell myself, “they also have their fair share of shortcomings and what they think about me doesn’t matter very much anymore.”

Having said all that, I am more of a broad vision person and if it was up to me I would like to leave the details to someone else so I am quite sure there must be details I need to work on (my blind-spot). I will let you into a secret, (come in behind the hidden facade for a moment) there are some things I would like to do or finish doing (not telling you what they are yet). If I focused on some of those details it would probably be much more likely that I would finish what I set out to do.

Oh dear! I see I have answered a prompt by not actually answering it. That’s wicked of me, leaving you hanging there like that.

Until next time, sending you a warm smile
cheers, Morag.